Once you set a dumb goal and start pursuing it, you will find the job quite tough because it's a dumb goal. You may want to change the goal. You may feel like giving it up. It's very tough and it should be. You are aiming the ultimate goal that excites you. You literally trade your life with the goal. Because you want it.
It's totally natural to feel that way because you've never set a dumb goal. This is the very first time you get into unknown voluntarily. People don't do this and that's why you feel yourself dumb. But you are not fool. You are smart enough to understand how to grow. The only way to grow is to get into unknown even if it is scary. You want to do it anyway because you now recognize what really matters to you in life.
There are two kinds of goal setting strategies. One is called SMART goals, the other is called DUMB goals. I would like to say DUMB goals are far more important than SMART goals.
Here is why. DUMB goals can give you the maximum growth opportunities while SMART goals can't. The true reward is not achieving the goal itself but the growth you get along the way.
Why do we need goals?
Because most of us are lazy at one level. You may be an exception but at least I am lazy. So, if I don't have any goals, my mind wanders all the time. I would do many things my mind is attracted to without any long term vision. Then, probably I don't get what I really want. Soon, the time will be up. The end of my life. The story ends.
Now, you know that your inner layer is 100% yours and therefore, you can control your thoughts and feelings 100% even though it is not easy.
Also, you now know that the key factor of your taking actions is your emotional involvement. You need to have a burning desire to do whatever you want to do.
When you take actions, you will get reactions, which are changes happening in the outer layer. In other words, you will create your reality.
If you want to improve any aspect of your life, taking action is necessary. Wishing, praying, hoping, positive thinking alone don't make any difference as far as I know.
You may think it is your will power that causes your actions. While your will power is important, the real key is your emotion, your feelings.
The world has two layers. The outer layer is objective. It consists of environments, conditions, and circumstances. The inner layer is subjective. It consists of thoughts and feelings.
Because of its nature, the inner layer is totally yours. Which means, you have 100% control over it.
We live in a world which has two layers, an inner layer and an outer layer. The outer layer is same for all of us. In other words, it is objective. On the other hand, the inner layer is private and subjective. No one can see your inner layer because it's private. More importantly, the inner layer defines your life. How?
Instead of pursuing happiness, it is better to make BLISS your target.
Why? Because happiness fluctuates while bliss doesn't.
The key to get bliss is to understand mind. And it is not an easy thing to do. It takes time. It takes persistence. It takes determination. But it is possible.
Happiness depends on circumstances while bliss doesn't. Bliss comes when you know that the world is simply a creation of your mind.
What is mind?
Mind is not you. You have it. For most people, however, it owns them. That is a problem.
The key is to understand mind and use it effectively.
Bob Ishida, born and raised in Japan, is a human potential researcher, globalization advocate, speaker, entrepreneur, lover, father, husband and a child.